We find ourselves in judgement when we compare ourselves to others, when we are finding fault with others (or ourselves) and when we are in blame. Judgement has become a self-preservation tool run by our ego state to keep us ‘feeling good’.
When someone is perceived to be less than us, we feel a sense of being okay. Like we aren’t all that f@&!ed up after all. But it’s the very thing that keeps us stuck and not living to our full potential. When we find fault in others we are finding fault with ourselves. After all, we are a projection of what we feel inside. Not to mention, when we are sitting in judgement, along comes guilt to really kick us in the solar plexus and that hurts even more!